Do you ever feel nervous when you speak English? Do you feel so afraid you cannot speak?
Here is a question from the AJE (Ask John English) Forum from Dilly:
I’m not sure if this has been asked before, but do you have any tips on overcoming the fear of speaking English?
Sometimes it’s hard for me to speak naturally and effortlessly. My mind goes blank and I stutter. I tend to worry about being laughed at for making mistakes – even though I guess nobody is perfect and mistakes are a part of learning.
Maybe I’m being too hard on myself, but I feel my English is not good enough.
Is there anything I could do to stop being so self-conscious when I speak?
He then describes how he feels:
I’ve seen people being looked down on and made fun of for not speaking correct English, so I fear the same might happen to me.
I don’t worry about making mistakes around my friends because I know they wouldn’t judge me based on how well I speak. But I get uncomfortable and tongue tied with strangers or people who are too critical.
Also, I’m a perfectionist, so I’m probably my worst critic. If I go wrong, I can’t help beating myself up over it. It happens in my own language too but more so in English since I’m less fluent in it.
Here is my answer to his question:
This is a great question! Something almost everyone experiences at some time.
I have written some new free lessons that looks at exactly this topic. Make sure you sign up to get them here: http://free.askjohnenglish.com/
I understand your fear. Actually, I sometimes feel very shy – I think everyone does, especially when they are meeting new people or they are somewhere they don’t know anyone, for example at a party where you know nobody.
I think one good way to help with this is to have some strategies to help you.
For example, one strategy I use is to ask questions when I meet new people. Of course I do this in a friendly way – don’t be like a policeman asking many many questions on one topic!
What I try to do is ask questions about different topics, until I find a topic I can talk with the person about easily.
The good thing about this strategy, is you can prepare your questions in advance! Then you should feel more comfortable, because you will know what you are going to say.
Darklight also had some good advice for Dilly.
- Share your experince in the comments.What do you do when you feel shy or afraid to speak?
Have you tried something like I suggested before? Let’s give Dilly some great tips!
- See Dilly’s post here. Make sure you join the AJE forum so that you can ask questions too, and also help people with their questions.